We all have a habit or two that our loved ones and even coworkers put up with. But there are some that just don’t belong in a business setting! That’s were etiquette comes in.
In a work-related setting, conference, or job fair, one gross habit can cost you a valuable connection.
Just because you’re hiding in a corner thinking no one will notice as you pull out that wedgie, you are wrong!
The two scenarios below are real; I was there!
Scenario 1: You are chatting with this person as they enjoy the free refreshments that are typically provided at networking events. As you’re speaking with them, you notice that they lick their fingers after every bite. Then with those moist fingers, they hand you their business card. Do you take it?
What we’d like to do: Show disgust, refuse to take the card, or say, “Yuck, that’s gross.” But that wouldn’t be nice, professional or change anything.
Options:
- Accept the card, maintaining a straight face. Try to hold it by the opposite corner they touched.
- Put away the card and continue the conversation. Upon conclusion, walk directly to the nearest restroom.
- Politely refuse the card, stating that you prefer to use a camera app, click and problem solved.
Scenario 2: At a workshop, you see a coworker remove their shoes, leaving their feet to air out. Throughout the meeting you notice them rubbing their feet and hanging on to their toes. Perhaps a nervous habit, but nonetheless, visually gross. Lunchtime arrives you find yourself next to them at the buffet line, they hand you a glass with the unwashed feet-rubbing-hands. Do you take it?
What we’d like to do: Show disgust, refuse to take the glass, or say, “Yuck, that’s gross.” But that wouldn’t be nice, professional or change anything.
Options:
- Smile, accept it and say, “thank you.” Find the nearest tray, set the glass down, wash your hands and get a new glass. *If you get caught setting down, simply say there was something floating around in it.
- Take a napkin, spritz it with sanitizer, rub down the glass and say “Cheers!” Just kidding. It’s a rude and theatrical move.
- There is no other option.
As I share in my book, “Don’t Burp in the Boardroom”, I once had gorger’s morsal land on my lip during our conversation!
Final Thoughts:
We try to avoid embarrassing or correcting anyone, especially in public. Although gross, a little spit or sticky handshake won’t kill us. Focus on the conversation, don’t touch your face and wash your hands upon concluding the chat. We really don’t know where people’s hands have been prior to meeting them. Eww, best not to think about it.
The above etiquette tips are general, subject to interpretation, specific circumstances, and personal perspective. There are always more options. If your concern is ongoing and/or escalating, seek professional assistance from a trusted source.
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