If you’ve been considering breaking up for awhile, do not wait any longer. Not only because it’s awful to breakup on the eve before a significant day. But more so because of the expectation, the planning, and possibly the monetary investment on a gift or non-refundable ticket to somewhere.

  1. Do not breakup via text, email, a call, or worse, by changing your “relationship status” on social media. Handle the situation with respect, dignity, and consideration. Especially if you’ve been dating for a long time. A face-to-face conversation is the right thing to do; preferably in private, unless they are prone to losing their temper.
  2. Do not breakup at the holiday gathering after you’ve had a few shots of “coward’s” juice. This not only shows poor judgment on your part, but you will undoubtedly deliver the news with less tact and kindness.
  3. Do not bring along or talk about your new love interest. This is immature, tacky and inconsiderate.
  4. Waiting to spill the news abruptly is selfish and unkind. Allow time for them to take it in and talk about it.

3 TIPS FOR GUESTS & HOSTS

Hosts: You can’t remember everything or please every guest. But there are a few basic preparations.

1. Bathroom refresh:

  • Consider providing flushable wipes.
  • Put away any medications or products you wouldn’t want anyone to know about.
  • Replace the hand towel if there are a lot of users.

2. Recruit a ghost-host:

  • Someone who can be discreet to roam and watch for heated conversations, wild children, and to make sure Uncle Frank curtails his cocktail intake.

3. Non-alcoholic beverages:

  • Place non-alcoholic beverages in obvious location.
  • Someone’s sobriety must never be shared with other guests.

Click here to take the dining quiz:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qbsa8Xipsk&t=110s (My appearance on Good Day Sacramento)

FINAL THOUGHTS: 

The holiday season brings up all kinds of emotions. Even though your intentions may be good, try not to impose your views or solutions, unless you are asked. Offering a shoulder or time to just listen may be the only thing someone needs.

As far as family dynamics go, if you know how someone is, don’t expect anything different. Adjust how you handle it.

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday Season! May you ring in the new year with joy, laughter, and love.
The above etiquette tips are general, subject to interpretation, specific circumstances, and personal perspective. There are always more options