Are you avoiding all holiday gatherings this year because of current events? Maybe it’s the best decision for you. However, when there are children involved, our decision to avoid family affects them and the relationship with those they love.

Before you decline, consider these options: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/x5dPgte9ksw

As a guest, if you have or practice any of the above, it is up to you to inform the host in advance. A host cannot accommodate everyone’s preferences or desires.

• Once you inform the host about your particular need, tell them that you will bring a dish or two to share.
• Don’t expect them to make major adjustments to meet your need.
• Don’t lecture others on how they should adopt your way. Or the details about your medical condition that requires this particular diet.
• If you are able to be flexible with your need, don’t say a word. Eat what you can and enjoy the conversation.

Picky Eaters:  https://www.youtube.com/shorts/qSPjl2FYsT4

1. Someone goes on and on about their child’s intelligence only to compare your child’s abilities. 

a. You engage and begin listing all of the amazing things your child knows, says, and does. = Where does this end?
b. You politely stop them, then excuse yourself and your child. = Conversation over.
c. You smile and say, “Every child develops differently. Our focus is on their social skills.” = This phrase may stir up hostility or continued bragging on their part.

2. Someone approaches you and says, “So you’re one of those people who voted for “X Candidate”.

a. You joyfully respond, “Yes! And you are one of those people who didn’t. Let’s have a drink.”
b. You deny it to avert potential conflict.
c. You decline to state and immediately introduce a neutral and agreeable topic.

Responding: Sometimes, not addressing a comment or question is the best response. Especially if your first thought is nasty or uncivil. Also, consider the source. Is this person someone you care about or a brief encounter? Do they seem receptive to clarifying their comment?

Relationship Over: Allowing a difference of opinion to alienate you from the people who love you, whom you have history and good times, is a darn shame! If you focus on the joyful times you’ve shared, sorrows, defeats and accomplishments, you can quickly forget about the “differences.”

Be the one to reach out. If your effort is declined, don’t be discouraged. This only means that they are not in the same frame of mind that you are. Hopefully, time will heal.
The above etiquette tips are general, subject to interpretation, specific circumstances, and personal perspective. There are always more options