5 Things Not to Do the Day Before Valentine's Day

There are things you just shouldn’t do to someone the day before Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day can be a day of pressure, not pleasure. When one person in the relationship has high expectations, and the other thinks that a card and bath oil is perfect, watch out!

Expectations are what usually ruins a Valentine’s Day. If you’re expecting a marriage or “let’s move in together” proposal, but haven’t talked about it, brace yourself.

Here are 5 things not to do the day before Valentine’s Day:

1. Buy an engagement ring.

You’ll pay more.
You’ll probably settle for a ring because you’re desperate.
You might ask yourself why you’re making this last-minute decision.

2. Get drunk.

You might make a call or text telling them how you really feel. Or ask about their cute best friend.
You may text the wrong person.

3. Cancel.

Unless it’s an emergency that most of society would also consider an emergency.
Be prepared to hear about it, and probably lose their respect.
Depending on their philosophy, they can make your life miserable on social media.

4. Breakup.

I don’t blame you if they’ve cheated, robbed, or are incessantly sending texts directing how everything “better go” tomorrow, or insisting you better propose and how.
Do not cancel or breakup through a third party. If you’re mature enough to date, be mature enough to handle your love life. Too harsh? Not for the recipient.
If you intended to break-up, shoulda-woulda-coulda is not an acceptable reason. It is a rude, disrespectful and an unkind thing to do to someone. Is there a way out, even the day before? Even though it still stinks, yes.

You might consider: (Doesn’t guarantee it’ll smooth things out; it’s merely a nice gesture.)

a) This deserves a call, not a text! Immediately call your date, apologize, try to explain, take full responsibility, and offer the evening at your expense.

b) A day or so later, follow up with a sincere apology. Whether they accept or not, is another thing.

5. Change your “relationship status”.

If you’ve broken up only in your mind, don’t change it.
If this is “the way” you’re notifying them of the breakup, don’t change it.
Wait until the day after Valentine’s Day, if only out of respect for them. Let them be the one to change it first. This move is a bit “high school,” but for their sake, let them have their dignity.

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Next time, try to handle your business in time, with consideration, and kindness. Most last-minute decisions may take away your burden, but it is bombshell for the recipient.

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