RESTROOM STALL CONSULTATION: What to do when a coworker follows you
Everyone’s boundaries are different. Some people don’t have any except when it’s their boundary you’re infringing upon.
Isn’t common knowledge or basic social skills to respect someone’s privacy while they are behind the stall door? No, not everyone adheres to this unwritten rule.
Q: During a recent visit to the restroom, a coworker stormed in calling out my name. I reluctantly replied when she proceeded to ask me about a client she had put on hold. I replied, “Can it wait?” Without a beat, she continued. This happens frequently. How can I discourage this?
A: My first thought is don’t respond. And if she keeps-a-calln’ or a knockn’, remain silent.
Option 1: Once you exit the stall, she will no doubt ask why you didn’t answer. You simply and matter-of-factly reply, “I was occupied.” Once you both exit the restroom, say, “So, what did you need to know?” Do this every time, she’ll eventually get it.
Option 2: Before you excuse yourself, ask her if there’s anything urgent she needs an answer to because you do not want to be disturbed in the restroom. Slightly ridiculous; it’s like asking your mom for permission.
Option 3: A more direct way is to tell her that unless the building is burning down or the boss is handing out hundred dollar bills, never to follow you to the restroom.
FINAL THOUGHTS:
Sometimes we can take the intimacy of a friendship too far. Like feeling comfortable enough to invade the restroom-stall privacy rule. Maybe they’re new to the workplace or over-eager. Or maybe engaging in restroom camaraderie is normal. Perspective.
The above etiquette tips are general, subject to interpretation, specific circumstances, and personal perspective. There are always more options. If your concern is ongoing and/or escalating, seek professional assistance from a trusted source.
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