National Compliment Day; keep it sincere.
Compliment: praise, flattery, endorsement
Don’t confuse it with “complement”: completes, enhancement, counterpart
Why do some people find it difficult to accept a compliment? Here are the most common reasons that I’ve heard:
- It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
- I feel like I have to compliment them right back.
- I don’t know what to say.
- It makes me wonder what it is they want from me.
- It’s okay to feel uncomfortable and awkward, just say, “thank you” and it’s over.
- It’s okay to feel like you have to return the compliment; please don’t. It can come across as insincere. Say, “thank you” and move on. If you just can’t stand it, compliment them later or the next day.
- If you don’t know what to say, that’s okay, just say, “thank you.” If the compliment was grand, “thank you very much.”
- In some cases, people may have a purpose for complimenting you. It could be sinister, pre-favor request, or a way to open communication. Again, say, “thank you” and wait for their next move, if there is one.
How do you respond when someone brings you a gift? Look at a compliment as a gift. The only difference is that it isn’t wrapped.
“We are prepared for insults, but compliments leave us baffled.” –Mason Cooley, American aphorist
___Etiquette is an attitude.
I’m Rosalinda Randall, a modern-day expert and author on etiquette and civility. I’ve been spreading civility for more than 14 years.
I believe that is all starts with our attitude. Does it say, “Hi” or “Get away from me“?
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